I remember as a young girl how my little sisters would play in the yard and before the day was over at least one of them would come running in with a handful of Dandelions. I was often reminded of how each one of my siblings and I had done this at one time in our lives. But those little flowers were brought in our house and put in a jar of water and then for the rest of the day, mama would sneeze her head off. She never told us that she was allergic to Dandelions, yet with everyone of her 6 children she would always take them and make them so very special.
Every time I see a Dandelion I am reminded of her selfless love. I never saw her turn a handful of flowers away from any child, no matter if it was her child a neighbors child or a grandchild.
I am now experiencing this, although I am not allergic I have realized that my children just as so many other children look at these beautiful little yellow flowers and in their little innocent minds, they are the most beautiful flowers and their mommy must have a bouquet of them. They have no idea that they are weeds, they have no idea that no one would actually go in and purchase these to display on their table, yet so many homes have a little jar with a handful of Dandelions sitting on their table.
I can relate to the dandelion in my life, little children love the Dandelion because it is bright and yellow and there are so many of them, they are just so much fun to pick. As an adult we understand that a Dandelion is an unforgiving weed, they will push up through concrete which could be considered strong and determined, but in this book I am going to relate the dandelion to bitterness. Bitterness is strong and determined it will eat you up. No matter what you do to protect yourself and guard against this weed, it is determined and it can and will push through and will overtake you.
The Bitter Taste of the Dandelion
Have you ever seen a little one pick a dandelion and put it in their mouth? It is actually like watching them eat a lemon. They make the funniest face, you know why? Because it is bitter. When something is bitter, most people want no part of it. When your bitter in your heart, your actions and spirit will be seen and felt by those around you and they will want no part of your life.
Hebrews 12:15 “Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;”
I faced a situation as a young lady and although God was with me through that trial, I rejected his grace and I became bitter. There were so many times in my life that God tried to give his grace to me and I allowed the weed of bitterness to push through and I allowed myself to be consumed with bitterness. When you reject God’s grace the root of bitterness will sprout in your life. One of the biggest problems with bitterness is that it is contagious, you are not the only one affected by bitterness, but everyone that crosses your path will leave with the taste of bitterness in their lives. They may not deal with bitterness, but they will certainly feel your bitter spirit.
A dandelion is an attractive weed to the eyes of children, but when it dies it becomes everyones favorite flower no matter what their age. It is so much fun to pick a dandelion and blow the seeds and watch them fly through the air. See, this is exactly how bitterness and anger are spread, many times you don’t even realize that you are poisoning those around you with your bitter heart. Anger and Bitterness are easy to grow in your life and the seeds are widespread.
No matter what you have faced in your life, whether it be a difficult home or fighting parents, being physically, sexually or emotionally abused, whether you have had a bad marriage or lost a child. Let me just say that that time in your life should not define you as a person. As a child I had an experience that I allowed to define me as a person and when I came into adulthood, I allowed it to define me as a wife. There came a time in my life when I decided that I would not be defined by my passed and an unchangeable event. I grew very bitter toward my authorities and towards my God, yet in his mercy he continued to pursue me and reach for me, no matter how many times I rejected his grace, he still extended it to me.
So, as much as the Dandelion is loved by children and moms everywhere place them in a special jar, no matter how many times we pick them and blow them to see the little seeds fly through the air, the truth is most people try their best to get rid of them.
WHAT DO I DO TO GET RID OF THE DANDELION OF BITTERNESS IN MY LIFE?
If you were to look online to find a way to rid your front yard of dandelions here is what you would find.
1.) Mow the dandelions as they emerge.
This means at the moment you see them in your grass, CUT THEM DOWN. This is the same for Bitterness, when you see it in your life, Cut it down!! Confess your bitterness and selfishness to God.
1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Don’t get me wrong, there are things in our life that brings bitterness that is completely the fault of someone else, but just the fact that we have allowed bitterness is sin, so that is what we should confess.
Ephesians 3:31 “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:”
2.) Dig the dandelions out at the root.
You cannot get rid of bitterness unless you get to the root of the problem. This is so hard, because this is where you have to face the facts to that which caused your bitterness. Do you have a parent, friend, sibling or acquaintance that caused the seed of bitterness to sprout in your life. You have to DIG deep and realize what or who is the source to your bitter life.
Once you realize where the root is, you must give it to Christ.
1 Peter 5:6 “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."
3 .) Smother the weeds & Improve your soil.
It says to smother the weeds and improve your soil.. so you need to cover yourself in the comfort of God’s precious word. You need to put on the whole armor of God to be able to win the battle.
“Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
When we choose to put on the whole armor of God, He will give us the strength through His Word to stand against the wiles of the devil. I believe that one of the wiles of the devil is this very subject.. BITTERNESS. He wants to destroy you, and this is how he does it, slowly and surely he creeps in and overtakes, this is why we must armor ourself with the Word of God.
Here is a great place to start…
1 "Be merciful unto me, O God: for man would swallow me up; he fighting daily oppresseth me.
2 Mine enemies would daily swallow me up: for they be many that fight against me, O thou most High.
3 What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.
4 In God I will praise his word, in God I have put my trust; I will not fear what flesh can do unto me.
5 Every day they wrest my words: all their thoughts are against me for evil.
6 They gather themselves together, they hide themselves, they mark my steps, when they wait for my soul.
7 Shall they escape by iniquity? in thine anger cast down the people, O God.
8 Thou tellest my wanderings: put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book?
9 When I cry unto thee, then shall mine enemies turn back: this I know; for God is for me.
10 In God will I praise his word: in the Lord will I praise his word.
11 In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.
12 Thy vows are upon me, O God: I will render praises unto thee.
13 For thou hast delivered my soul from death: wilt not thou deliver my feet from falling, that I may walk before God in the light of the living?"
As we empty ourselves of bitterness, He will fill us with His peace.
But we must be willing to let go of the bitterness. Many times we want to give blame to others and although others may be responsible for what happened in your life, you are responsible for you and you must respond positively to your fight from bitterness.
As God was healing me and ridding me of bitterness there were days where I actually felt more angry, those days you need to remember the decision you made to rid yourself of the dandelion in your life.
The bible tells us that
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones”
I believe you can relate a broken spirit to a bitter soul and it will dry your bones unless you take care of it.
No matter what you have faced in your life, Bitterness is not the answer. It will lead you to a destructive life. God wants you to turn to him and stop trying to do it on your own.